Letting Go of Toxic People
This person can be your sister or even your best friend, but the time has come where you need to put up boundaries. *Leslie had been in and out of my life for as long as I can remember. It wasn’t until a few years ago though, that we had gotten super close. Given the age difference after all, how can two people be so close?
You know when things eventually get one sided though? That was the situation that my sister and I found ourselves in. Through all of the shared secrets, the hearing her vent to me over the phone about this and that, the crying in one another’s arm due to hardships that life had put the two of us through. I was there for her more than she was for me. It was more than just a few times that I needed her, because sometimes a baby sister just needs her older sister, and she was nowhere to be found. When she was found though, it was all about her and what she was going through and how she was feeling.
I was always there for her when I was old enough to be. I was always hearing her out when things got a little too tough to handle. We both have been through so much, and I always felt that that had made us closer.
There comes a time in life though when you have to distance yourself. I often wonder if I’m being selfish for doing that but then when I think about how I’m doing mentally with her in my life vs her not in my life… The caring for her from a distance doesn’t seem so bad.
I can’t possibly remember the last time that I’ve heard from her just to see how I’m doing. A simple, “How are you?” would suffice. That apparently seems to be asking for too much though. I’ve come to terms with the strain we now have. Will that mean that, I wouldn’t be there for her if she were to call me out of the blue? Of course not, It just means that I’m taking care of my mental health, and in order to do that I have to learn to put myself first. I have to learn to be a little selfish for the first time. If cutting ties with people who are toxic to my mental state of health makes me selfish then I guess i’m okay with that. If there is anything that 2017 has taught me, it’s that I’ve got to be little selfish when it comes to my well being. If that means letting go of toxic family and friends, I am 100% okay with that…. What has 2017 taught you?